Cornelius Martinas Johannes (Kees) Mulder
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ees Mulder, the man with the Oxbow shirt and the baseball cap.On
paper it is not possible to describe how fantastic he was. With
all his love, friendship, humor, warmth, fidelity, sincerity,
mirth and perseverance, he made a big impression on the people
Kees was born in Amsterdam, lived for a few years
in Lelystad, and at the age of 15 he moved to Haarlem. It was
in 1987 when we first met. Soon it became clear that this was
a very serious and strong relationship. We spent all our time
together and became true soulmates. After only one year, due to
circumstances, we started living together at a very young age.
It wasn't always easy, but that caused the bond between us to
become stronger and stronger.
In 1991 we married and a few years later we bought
a very beautiful house in Hillegom where we lived together with
our two dogs, Andor and Valou. Life was looking great for us.
We were happy, still very much in love and still spending all
our time together: training our dogs, playing squash, scuba-diving,
visiting the games of the Amsterdam Admirals, the Dutch American
football team. Together with his friend Danny, Kees even became
the coach of my handball team. Kees very much loved this socializing
with friends, or just the two of us being together.
His friends were very important to Kees. He greatly
enjoyed our daytrips, the dinners and the joint vacations with
friends, but also the serious conversations between him and his
closest friends. At these times they would discuss their work
as truck drivers, their visions of life, and their plans for the
Kees was always full of plans and dreams. He was interested in
and if it was within his reach, he would try them all. He could
easily begin with some activity and then, impulsive as he was,
within a short period of time throw himself on something new.
He always said to me, "You only live once and you must get
out of life as much as you can."
Unfortunately Kees was not given much time to
accomplish all his plans and dreams. His biggest wish was never
fulfilled -- it was to someday have children of his own. But in
spite of that, I'm glad that he had so many things he did realize
in his life like our trip to Florida in 1993. One of the biggest
events of this vacation was our visit to the Kennedy Space Center,
for Kees and I have always been interested in space travel. That
is why I have chosen to let Kees' cremated remains be taken into
space. Kees did not know about this possibility, but I'm sure
that he would have thought it was fantastic.
Kees Mulder, a man with lots of optimism and especially
lots of humor, enjoyed his life very much. Unfortunately his life
only lasted 29 years. He left behind a big emptiness with all
the people who loved him, his friends and his parents. But especially
with me, his wife. I miss him so very much.
Life will never be the same without him.
I couldn't concentrate today
Because I was thinking of you.
I was hurting inside
From missing you too.
My heart feels the pain
From missing you here. [figure]
Forever in my heart
You will always be near.
I miss you so much
I can't stand the pain.
I count down the days
'Till I will see you again.
Kees, I will always love you!